I am Iron Man - Weaponise Yourself For Success - Hacking Reality - Thinking For Yourself part 1

You become dangerous to “normal” people when you think differently because you challenge their reality, you challenge their acceptance of their limitations and their inability to rise above and beyond and achieve success. Successful people have weaponised themselves - they have transformed themselves into someone who can gain the advantage (one of the definitions of “weapon”) and become that person who creates success for themselves.

It's making the ontological shift a shift in beingness from who you currently are to who you want to be.

This isn't a linear progression, it's not one step following the other, then the next step following that. It's like a hyperspace jump, where you fold space and instantaneously transition from one level of existence to another completely different one. It's what transformation really is about. Becoming someone else.

It's the shift Tony Stark makes in the Iron Man series of films - he realises it's not about who he becomes when he puts the armour on, it's who he is underneath. And that's where the power is.

It's the creative genius in his mind not the cool tech he wears.

This is the secret martial artists have known for thousands of years from the Shaolin monks to Taoist masters. That you work with the body to master the mind.

It’s the warrior lineage behind the Feeling Thinking Loop™.

You are the weapon when your mind is sharp unless you’ve let your mind become dull and stupid.

What the martial arts masters understand is that martial arts isn’t about violence - it’s got nothing to do with hitting people. In fact it’s got nothing to do with other people!! It’s about mastering yourself because that’s the route to power.

The martial arts master doesn’t need to fight because they can’t be hit. They get physical flexibility = metal flexibility so they aren’t stupid enough to get into a fight and don’t need to lower themselves to violence unless the cause is just.

Violent and angry people are inflexible and we are living in a world where there are more violent and angry people.

And I don't just mean violent and angry towards other people.

How often do you feel anger, frustration, unhappiness and even violence towards yourself when you don't get what you want?

"Normal people" are rigid it in their thinking, you can argue that they don't actually think that much, that most of what goes on in their head is what they've allowed other people to put there. What they watch on TV, what the people around them talk about.

For a marketer it's a temptation because they are setting themselves up to be manipulated. You just speak to what reinforces their existing prejudices and they'll accept you as a leader because you are showing you are one of their tribe and a leader because they don't want to take the responsibility.

In personal development it's dangerous to be the "guru" because the client is the one who needs to do the work and it doesn't matter how good you are as a coach/therapist because you can't do the work for them which is what they are trying to set you up to do. We all learn to be dependent first from our parents, then school/college/university, then at work you do what your boss tells you or you don't get to work there very long.

I always tell the coaches and therapists I mentor that they are setting themselves up for problems unless they teach their clients to be independent.

It's the same for marketers - you've got to be the trusted advisor. Tell the customer what they DON'T want to hear not what they do. Tell them the truth. And if they go somewhere else while you haven't made the sale you have built credibility which is always more valuable long term.

This is the weaponisation part - always doing the right thing for the client/customer because it gives you the advantage long term. But that almost certainly doesn't make sense in normal thinking, you have to expand the amount of time you can hold in your head, it's not just thinking a couple of moves ahead, it's thinking about winning the game and winning is ALWAYS win win.

Sun Tzu in the Art of War spoke about knowing your enemy as well as you know yourself as the path to victory.

But as I say no matter how good your quantitive research and your qualitative research if you don't know yourself you will always lose.

This is thinking for yourself - knowing what you want is how you start to hack reality to get it.

Next time: Hacking Your Story - Thinking For Yourself part 2.